ummu Ayaan care

Exactly a year ago, during fasting period, God, in His infinite mercy, gave me a lovely gift. And guess what? He is celebrating his first birthday today. Which of Your favors can I deny? None. Alhamdulillah. 🎂🎁👦

*HOW TO TRAIN CHILDREN WHO CAN SURVIVE WITHOUT YOU*

1. *Stop Doing Everything for Them*
In many homes:
Mummy washes.
Mummy cooks.
Mummy packs bag.
Mummy reminds about homework.
Mummy f!ghts teachers.
Mummy solves every problem.
And the child?
Just exists.
If your 14-year-old cannot:
– Wash their clothes
– Cook simple meals
– Iron their uniform
– Organize their schedule
Then something is wrong.
Example:
Ada goes to university and doesn’t know how to boil rice.
Not because she is dull.
But because nobody allowed her learn.
Teach life skills early.
Independence starts at home.

2. *Teach Decision Making Early.*
Some parents control everything:
“What will you wear?”
“What will you study?”
“Who will you befriend?”
“What course will you choose?”
Then at 20, the child cannot decide anything without calling home.
Allow small decisions early:
✔ Let them choose outfits sometimes
✔ Let them manage small money
✔ Let them solve minor conflicts
✔ Let them take responsibility for mistakes
Mistakes are training ground for maturity.

3. *Teach Financial Responsibility* .
Many young adults struggle because:
They never handled money before.
Teach them:
– How to save
– How to budget
– The value of hard work
– That money doesn’t grow on trees
Give them small responsibilities.
Even if it’s:
“Here is your transport money for the week, manage it.”
Financial wisdom builds survival skills.

4. *Build Emotional Strength.*
Some children collapse at the smallest disappointment because:
They were never allowed to face discomfort.
Parents shield them from everything.
But life will not shield them.
Teach them:
✔ How to handle rejection
✔ How to handle failure
✔ How to apologize
✔ How to bounce back
When your child fails an exam, don’t rescue immediately.
Guide them through recovery.
Resilience is survival skill.

5. *Stop Making Them Afraid of You.*
If your child fears you, they may obey you.
But they won’t develop confidence.
Children who survive without parents are children who:
– Think independently
– Speak up
– Ask questions
– Solve problems
Fear produces dependency.
Confidence produces independence.

6. *Teach Practical Skills.*
By teenage years, your child should know:
– Basic cooking
– Laundry
– Cleaning
– How to talk respectfully
– How to ask for help
– Basic safety awareness
Don’t say:
“They will learn when they marry.”
That mentality has destroyed many.
Marriage is not training school.
Home is.

7. *Teach Faith and Values*
If you are faith based, teach them:
– Personal prayer
– Moral boundaries
– Integrity
– Self control
Not just church attendance.
A child who knows their values can stand firm when you are not there.

Parents Listen.
Your children will leave for university.
They will travel abroad.
They will marry.
They will face decisions without you beside them.
And that is when your parenting will speak.
Not your shouting.
Not your control.
But the training you gave them.
Don’t raise children who need you forever.
Raise children who are strong because of you.
Your goal is not to make them dependent.
Your goal is to make yourself gradually unnecessary.
That is real success in parenting.
Because the greatest gift you can give your child is not money.
It is the ability to stand alone and still stand well.

Ya Allah, as we approach the sacred month of Ramadan, cleanse our hearts from envy, anger, and pride. Fill our souls with humility, remembrance of Allah, and hope. Accept our duas before we even raise our hands and make this day a bridge toward forgiveness and mercy for us.
Jummatul Mubarak

*URGENT IMPORTANT MESSAGE*

Dear parents,
If you have a child who is in their teenage ages,please start observing their tongue.

Especially your daughters, once you start noticing constant colour on their tongue ranging from blue, yellow, green and orange colour especially, just know that your daughter is already into a drug called molly.

Molly gives excitement, it unnecessarily gives 'joy' like early madness. It feels like someone is tickling you.

Once Molly starts manifesting, any man who touches your daughter who has just finished taking it can have s*x with her sumptuously.

Campuses and even the streets are dens of Molly currently.

A lot of female students are selling it as a business.

Molly (M**A) Illicit Substance
Molly (M**A) is an illegal drug and its price is not regulated by formal markets.

In one account a dose of "Molly" in Nigeria was reported to cost approximately ₦25,000 in 2022.

Today,it is cheaper and available on the streets and campuses at ₦2k,₦5k and ₦10k.

Method of consumption, some lick it like regular vitamin C, others grind it,mold it and drop it on their tongue gradually and some dissolve it into a bottle of water.

It is ravaging young girls and boys currently.

The painful thing is that once your body gets adapted to Molly, you will start looking for other drugs like barky or Crack to improve its potency before you say, jack, your child will become a former human being.

Let us raise our voices and fight this collectively.

We can moderate it,we can help some of them out of it.

Just visit the psychiatric sections today, your daughter or neighbor's child may be there.

Thank you and God continue to bless us and keep guilding our youths....

Drug abuse is terrible.

C O P I E D .

Read and digest this.

Your brain often recognizes fake people long before your heart is ready to let go.

Let me put it in perspective.
your mind sees the truth early, but your heart needs time to accept it.

So what do youtim? when there is a conflict with what you know and what you feel, give it time, your brain can pick up things far before it materialize, some people call it intuition others call it hunch.

First impression can deceive, impression is an act, it can be learned and hide true intention.

Many are regretting, they sensed something but they quickly rushed into it and get burnt.

Give it time when you feel internal conflict.

As Salam.
O Allah! Make Your Mercy and Blessing exceptional in our lives. Remove all our difficulties and protect us from humiliations all our life and in Hereafter.
Jum'ah Mubarak

One hospital bill can wipe out 3 years of savings.
Don’t lose your HEALTH while chasing WEALTH.

BUT this is NOT permission for laziness.

You can still go all in to kickstart a new path in your business or career (and stay healthy) if you:

- Eat healthy
- Get enough sleep
- Cut distractions to buy back time
- Move your body daily
- Drink more water
- Get regular medical checkups
- Quit smoking (and cut back on alcohol)
- Manage stress before it manages you
- Protect your mental health
- Build systems so your life isn’t chaos

Notice this:

The majority of the items on the list have nothing to do with how many hours you work in a day or week.

You can work long hours and stay healthy.
You can work fewer hours and still be unhealthy.

Health is built by daily choices.
Not your calendar.

*Who noticed that banks did not greet anyone happy new year this year?!*
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