Singles, Sex and Spouses

Please parents teach your children s*x Education...

Imagine these secondary school students after their examination...

NOBODY WARNS YOU THAT SEXUAL SIN DOESN'T JUST AFFECT YOUR BODY… IT FOLLOWS YOUR SOUL INTO YOUR FUTURE MARRIAGE BED.

And that is exactly why we need to talk about this today.

Now before anyone misreads me…
S*x is NOT a sin.
Say it again.
S*x. Is. NOT. A. Sin.

God created it. God blessed it. God called it good.
Inside marriage? It is sweet, sacred, and absolutely spectacular.

It is worship. It is intimacy. It is covenant expressed in the most physical way possible.

Song of Solomon exists in your Bible for a reason beloved.

But here is where the enemy twisted what God designed…
The moment s*x leaves the altar of marriage…
It changes names.

It is no longer intimacy.
It is fornication.
And fornication is not just a sin against God…
It is a sin against your own body.

"Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is outside the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body."
— 1 Corinthians 6:18

So what exactly are we naming today?
S*xual sin outside marriage includes:
Fornication — s*xual in*******se between two unmarried people. Sweet in the moment. Costly in the spirit.

Examples of s*xual sin;

1. Po*******hy — it is not "just watching." It rewires your brain, corrupts your expectations, and trains your mind to consume people instead of cherish them.

2. Ma********on — often entered through fantasy, fueled by lust, and it keeps you bonded to a pleasure that was never yours to take alone.

3. S*xting and s*xual conversations — sin does not always start in the bedroom. It starts in the phone. In the DM. In the "innocent" conversation that went somewhere it shouldn't.

4. Soul ties through past s*xual partners — every person you were s*xually involved with left something behind. And you carried something of theirs forward. Into your next relationship. Into your marriage bed. Into your emotional patterns.

S*xual fantasy and lust — Jesus said in Matthew 5:28 that to look with lust is to already commit the act in your heart. The mind is the first bedroom.

Now here is where I come in today…;
Because I am not just here to name the sin.
I am here to show you the way out.

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME SEXUAL SIN AND ADICTION?;
1. Call it what it is.
Stop saying "I have a weakness."
Name it. Fornication. Po*******hy. Lust. Addiction.
You cannot repent of what you refuse to identify.

2. Genuine repentance — not just regret.
Regret says "I feel bad."
Repentance says "I am turning around and not returning."
Run to God. Not away from Him. He is not surprised by your struggle. He is waiting with grace.

3. Renew your mind daily.
Romans 12:2 — "Be transformed by the renewing of your mind."
What you feed grows. What you starve dies.
Fill your mind with the Word. With worship, with sermons. With purpose.
Because a mind occupied with God has less room for lust to set up camp.

4. Remove the access points.
Delete the apps.
Block the contact.
Remove what triggers you — ruthlessly and without negotiation.
If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off. Jesus was not playing. Neither should you. Matthew 5:30

5. Accountability — get a real one.
Not someone who will laugh with you about it.
A Godly, mature, same-gender person who will pray WITH you, check on you, and tell you the truth even when it is uncomfortable.
Isolation is where s*xual sin thrives.
Community is where it dies. You need someone you can reach out to when you are about to do the do be it ma********on, prostitution, fonication etc, let it be someone who you listen too , someone above you ...someone who can command you by authority to stop immediately there and then. I pray you meet the right one .

6. Heal what the sin was medicating.
Most s*xual addiction is not really about s*x.
It is about loneliness. Pain. Rejection. Boredom. Unhealed trauma.
The sin was the painkiller.
Find the wound. Bring it to God. Get help — spiritual and professional if needed.

7. Guard your courtship/singleness with structure.
Stop creating environments where you set yourself up to fall.
Alone in the house. Late nights. Emotional intimacy without boundaries.
Structure is not lack of trust — it is wisdom in a body that has feelings.

8. Pray specifically and consistently if possible, I recommend fasting more...very important.
Not a general "God help me" prayer.
A targeted, specific, daily warfare prayer over your s*xuality.
"Lord, I surrender my body to You. It is Your temple. I will not defile it."
Your s*xuality needs to be under the Lordship of Christ — not just your career and calling. Make a covenant with it. Covenants are powerful I can testify to it.

9. Understand what you are protecting.
Your purity is not just about avoiding sin.
It is about protecting your future marriage.
It is about protecting your spiritual sensitivity.
It is about protecting the clarity of your assignment.
S*xual sin clouds discernment. It dims spiritual vision. It delays destiny.

10. Know that freedom is REAL and available to you.
You are not too far gone.
Your history is not your identity.
Galatians 5:1 — "It is for freedom that Christ has set us free."
That freedom includes s*xual freedom.
You CAN walk in purity. Not by willpower alone. But by grace, structure, community, and daily surrender.

I am here today not to condemn you.
But to tell you the truth in love.
Because the world will tell you to enjoy it.
Culture will normalize it.
But God is calling you to something higher —
A life, a body, and a future marriage bed that has been guarded, honoured, and set apart.

And THAT is worth every sacrifice you make today.

Do well to SHARE this post someone else might be saved right now and God will count you a pertsker of the testimony and glory accorded to it.

NOTE; marriage is not a cure to s*xual addiction , if you are single, deal with the problem before you enter it. And if you are marriage, do seek help.

I speak over your life now; You shall walk in freedom. You shall marry with honour. Your future shall be beautiful in Jesus name. 🌹🙌🏻

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📌 Monday 1st June, 2026
SSNS Relationship & Marriage Insight
A successful marriage is not the union of two perfect people.
It is the coming together of two imperfect people who have chosen to love, respect, forgive, and grow together.
Love may bring a man and a woman together,
But commitment keeps them together.
Feelings may change with time,
But genuine commitment remains steadfast.
Before saying, "I want a successful marriage,"
Ask yourself:
"Am I becoming the kind of person who can build and sustain one?"
Marriage works best when both partners are committed to becoming better, not just finding better.
SSNS Family,
What do you believe is the greatest pillar of a successful marriage?
A. Love
B. Commitment
C. Communication
D. Respect

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Convener – Singles, S*xes and Spouses (SSNS)

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📌 Friday 29th May, 2026
SSNS Weekend Reflection
Sometimes, the greatest relationship mistake is not choosing the wrong person…
It is refusing to heal from past hurts before entering a new relationship.

Broken emotions can damage good relationships.

Healing is important.
Don’t carry yesterday’s pain into tomorrow’s future.

A healthy relationship begins with a healthy heart.

SSNS Family,
What hurts relationships more?
A. Past experiences
B. Poor communication
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— Pastor Matthew Godsown Efosa
Convener – Singles, S*xes and Spouses (SSNS)