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“Parenting has nothing to do with the kids.”

Speaker: Dr. Aliza Pressman Dr. Aliza W. Pressman 
Source: You Learn This Too Late: Understanding This Will Change the Way You Look at Your Relationships | The Mel Robbins Podcast The Mel Robbins Podcast  Mel Robbins 

At first, that statement feels backwards. Parenting is about our kids, right?

But Dr. Pressman reminds us: at its core, parenting is about our work.

The 5 principles she names - relationship, reflection, regulation, rules, and repair - all start with us:

Relationship: We cultivate connection, even when our kids are messy or resistant
Reflection: We look at how our own upbringing shaped the way we show up now.
Regulation: We calm our nervous system so we can guide, not explode.
Rules: We set the structure that keeps kids safe and gives them freedom to grow.
Repair: We take responsibility when we rupture the connection — and show our kids what healing looks like.

Notice how none of these ask kids to change first. They get to be themselves - developing, exploring, testing, and stumbling. 

Our role is to create the container that helps them grow.

And here’s the paradox: once parents shift the focus back onto themselves, kids do change. They develop regulation skills, they feel more secure, and the relationship strengthens.

It makes us wonder:
If parenting isn’t about controlling children, how much freedom does that give us to focus on what we can control - our own presence, patience, and repair? 10/12/2025

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“Parenting has nothing to do with the kids.” Speaker: Dr. Aliza Pressman Dr. Aliza W. Pressman Source: You Learn This Too Late: Understanding This Will Change the Way You Look at Your Relationships | The Mel Robbins Podcast The Mel Robbins Podcast Mel Robbins At first, that statement feels backwards. Parenting is about our kids, right? But Dr. Pressman reminds us: at its core, parenting is about our work. The 5 principles she names - relationship, reflection, regulation, rules, and repair - all start with us: Relationship: We cultivate connection, even when our kids are messy or resistant Reflection: We look at how our own upbringing shaped the way we show up now. Regulation: We calm our nervous system so we can guide, not explode. Rules: We set the structure that keeps kids safe and gives them freedom to grow. Repair: We take responsibility when we rupture the connection — and show our kids what healing looks like. Notice how none of these ask kids to change first. They get to be themselves - developing, exploring, testing, and stumbling. Our role is to create the container that helps them grow. And here’s the paradox: once parents shift the focus back onto themselves, kids do change. They develop regulation skills, they feel more secure, and the relationship strengthens. It makes us wonder: If parenting isn’t about controlling children, how much freedom does that give us to focus on what we can control - our own presence, patience, and repair?

05/24/2025
03/31/2025

I love this so much!!!!

Raising confident, independent, self-sufficient kids starts by managing the anxiety of the parents. Highly recommend. https://www.facebook.com/share/v/16F6ZnVUej/?mibextid=wwXIfr

10/21/2024

I was so touched that a dear client left me a google review. Therapists rarely get them bc of the intimate nature of the therapeutic relationship. Really made my day. ❤️

07/11/2024

ChatGPT’s review of my book! So fun!

"Go Take a Bath: A Powerful Self-Care Approach to Extraordinary Parenting" by Robin Kevles-Necowitz offers a unique perspective on parenting by emphasizing the importance of self-care for parents. The book underscores the idea that taking care of oneself is crucial for being an effective and nurturing parent.

Kevles-Necowitz provides practical advice and strategies for parents to incorporate self-care into their daily lives. She highlights how prioritizing one's own well-being can lead to more patient, present, and positive interactions with children. The book combines personal anecdotes, expert insights, and actionable tips to create a comprehensive guide for parents seeking balance and fulfillment.

The author's approach is compassionate and realistic, acknowledging the challenges parents face while encouraging them to make small, manageable changes. The emphasis on self-care as a foundational aspect of parenting is both refreshing and empowering, offering parents permission to prioritize their needs without guilt.

Overall, "Go Take a Bath" is a valuable resource for parents looking to enhance their parenting experience through self-care. It is a well-written, insightful, and practical guide that can help parents find more joy and satisfaction in their role while fostering a healthier family dynamic.

04/06/2024

SO EXCITED to be headed to Sedona today to continue my IFS (internal family systems) training! Anyone interested in doing this profound, deep work is welcome to contact me. I currently have 2 openings. Check out the 2 podcasts in comments to learn more! (Parts 1 and 2)

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