Liam Rebuilds

Trust & believe…

A follow up to my previous video…

Something that’s helping me to heal from narcissistic abuse…

They weren’t forming a genuine connection with you, they were studying you.

Listen, a narcissist does not live in a world where they are ever at fault and you will drive yourself mad trying to figure out the logic they use to avoid accountability and inevitably place the blame on you.

I’ve said this before, but narcissists do not play by the same rule book that healthy people do and trying to get them to admit fault or even trying to understand their rationale is like trying to squeeze blood from a turnip. It won’t happen. Even if you do manage to get an apology out of them, an apology from a narcissist still attaches blame to someone else, and it’s usually you.

Watch out for this tactic that narcissists love to use.

You don’t need to rescue or fix anyone.

Narcissists are masters of avoiding accountability, which is absolutely maddening. So if you’ve dealt with a narcissist, this is your message to stop looking for accountability from them because it will never come, and instead, leave the situation (if you can), take away as many lessons as you can, and be accountable to yourself to apply what you learned so you don’t find yourself in the same situation again.

Don’t reach out to them.

We all have a past, but a narcissist will use theirs to keep you hooked because they know you have a kind heart, and they longer you stay, the more they can take from you.

You gave in, you tried, you bent, you broke, and you built your entire life around them. You suffered their manipulation, their emotional and physical attacks, their coercion and threats, etc… And when you finally stand up for yourself and leave, you will inevitably become the villain in their story, and that’s ok.

You may have loved them, and maybe a part of them loved you in a convoluted way, but what they really loved was using you. What they really loved was having access to your energy and attention; and the moment you cut them off from their supply, you become the bad guy.

Real love doesn’t operate like that.

So maybe you’re the villain in a narcissistic abuser’s story, but when you walk away, you’ll be your hero and you’ll thank yourself for taking your life back.

We’re not spending another year of our lives trying to get the literal bare minimum from others.