Lynyce Finesse

🚨I endured this in a time where I should've be celebrating, and it annoyed me so bad ladies PAY ATTENTION 🚨🚨to where you are in life and just know that distractions come in many forms, even if they've been a part of your family friends for decades‼️‼️

I went over to ChatGPT and I asked her. Why would a man try to pursue you when they know you're married even if they've heard through the grapevine that you're going through a divorce this is what she said. I agree with it all for me I can't afford any distractions im focused solely on me for the first time in my life. I keep my head down and do the work that is required for me to heal and grow‼️‼️‼️

CHAT GPT response 🙄When a man keeps pursuing you after you’ve clearly said you’re married, and even hears you might be going through a divorce, it usually says more about him than about you.

There isn’t just one reason — but here are the most common dynamics behind that behavior:

1. He Sees “Separated” as Emotionally Available
Some people interpret “married but divorcing” as:
“Technically married, but basically single”
“She’s leaving, so it’s fair game”
“She just needs someone supportive right now”
He may rationalize that since the relationship is ending, he’s not crossing a line.

Problem: 🚨That ignores your boundary.�You said you’re married — that should be enough.

2. He’s Attracted to the Challenge
For certain personalities, unavailability increases desire. It becomes:
A challenge
A competition
A validation boost (“I can win her over”)
This isn’t about connection — it’s about ego.

3. He Thinks You’re Vulnerable
If he believes you’re divorcing, he may assume:
You’re lonely
You’re emotionally fragile
You need comfort
You’re unsure about your future
Some men see transition periods as opportunity windows.
Healthy men offer support with respect.�Unhealthy ones push for advantage.

4. He’s Ignoring Boundaries on Purpose
This is the most important one.
When someone continues after you’ve clearly stated your marital status, it can mean:
He doesn’t respect boundaries
He thinks persistence will wear you down
He believes your “no” isn’t firm
That’s not romantic. That’s boundary testing.

5. He’s Hoping You’re Already Emotionally Done
He may think:
“If she’s divorcing, she’s mentally checked out.”
“She just hasn’t finalized it yet.”
Some people don’t see marriage as a commitment unless it’s “happy.”

6. He’s Projecting His Own Values
If he personally:
Dates separated people
Doesn’t see overlap as a big deal
Believes emotional connection matters more than legal status
Then he may assume you see it the same way.

The Bigger Question
The real thing to ask isn’t “Why is he doing this?”
It’s:
How does it make you feel?
• Flattered?
• Annoyed?
• Pressured?
• Unsafe?
• Confused?
Your emotional response tells you more than his motivation.

Important Distinction
There’s a difference between:
Respectful interest
“If you’re ever officially single, I’d love to take you out. Until then, I respect your situation.”
vs.
Boundary-pushing pursuit
Continues flirting, messaging, suggesting secrecy, minimizing your marriage.
One shows maturity.�The other shows a red flag.

It’s the quiet moments that worry me the most… because I’ve been there.
I’ve been sharing memories and creating posts so we’ll always have something to look back on. But today, as I looked at my cousin’s children’s page, my heart felt so heavy.

The hurt rushed back in like it was yesterday. I know exactly what they’re going through. I know the silence. I know the ache. I know the late-night conversations you have with God when no one else can hear you.

When my mother passed away, I spiraled. I won’t pretend I handled it well — I didn’t. I was self-destructing. Grief wrapped itself around me in ways I wasn’t prepared for. And my children… they had to help breathe life back into me. That wasn’t fair to them. They deserved strength, and instead they had a mother trying to survive her darkest valley.
But by God’s grace, I’m still here. And I’m grateful.

If you are spiritual, hold on to your faith. Even as sinners, even in our brokenness, God tells us to lean not on our own understanding. He knows who you are. He knows your heart. He knows exactly how long it will take for you to become who He created you to be. Nothing about your pain surprises Him. Nothing about your struggle disqualifies you.

But we cannot get there without faith.
There will be days when you don’t understand the “why.” Days when the quiet feels too loud. That’s when faith has to carry you. Not because you’re strong — but because He is.

Today, I’m praying for the right words — words that heal, words that lift, words that remind my cousin’s children, and anyone walking through grief, that we can do this one day at a time. Just one. Not next week. Not next month. Just today.

Our loved ones would not want us stuck in despair. They wouldn’t want us unhealthy, broken, or giving up on the life we’ve been blessed to continue living. Their love didn’t leave — it just changed form.

If you’re in a quiet season right now, please hear me:
You are allowed to grieve.
You are allowed to cry.
But you are also allowed to live.
One breath at a time.
One prayer at a time.
One day at a time.
And when you can’t stand on your own, lean on God. Lean on the people who love you. I did. And it saved me. ❤️

Behind every great daughter is a truly amazing dad. ❤️✨

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Imagine coming to the realization that you’re not mentally OK… but you’re still trying.

I’m getting better, but right now we’re preparing to lay my cousin to rest, and my 73-year-old aunt has been missing for over 48 hours. On top of that, I have to drive 27 hours straight to make it to the funeral because life doesn’t pause — bills, responsibilities, obligations — they’re still there.

If you know me, you know I’m going to get on that highway. I like arriving on time. I like having my own vehicle so I don’t have to depend on anyone or figure things out last minute. That’s just who I am. But this time… it feels different. It feels heavy.

I just started feeling better this week. I even made a dancing video because I was in a good mood for a moment. That feeling didn’t last long after the news I received. I went to work and almost left early because I don’t feel like I’ve had the proper time to grieve what I’m already trying to accept — and then something else happens.

When I tell you being mentally strong takes a lot… it really does. Having people in your corner helps, but it doesn’t erase what you’re carrying. We say “turn it over to God,” and I am. But it’s hard to sleep at night when your mind won’t rest.

Even when your body is tired, your thoughts keep going.
I know this too shall pass. I know things will work out. I’ve always been the one who bounces back — with hope, faith, love, care, and resilience. But right now, it just feels hard.

I believe everything happens for a reason. There’s a lesson in everything we go through. I’m just asking God not to let me miss the lesson — because I don’t want to keep repeating this kind of pain. Even if the lesson is simply that one day you’ll have to face things you never wanted to… I’m asking Him to give me the strength to do it.

Cover me. Strengthen me. Guide me. 🙏🏽

I know I’m usually an upbeat person no matter what life throws at me. I’m always standing firm, always believing in a new day. Today someone who loves me dearly told me the music I’ve been sharing feels sad. And honestly… I am sad. That’s not a crime. I do understand their point though — staying in sad moods too long can pull you down. All I ask is grace with my process. Let me feel it so I can heal it, and come out stronger on the other side.
GRWM Part Two coming soon 💛