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Set Boundaries and Respect Theirs

Some of the best relationship advice involves setting boundaries. This is as true in friends-with-benefits scenarios as it is in romantic relationships. This will only work if you both know where you stand and what is and is not allowed. Without boundaries, an arrangement that was supposed to be strictly s*xual and fun becomes a real mess.

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Never Use This to Hide From Long-Term CommitmentFriends-with-benefits

relationships can be great fun. If you are at a stage of life in which you aren’t interested in anything other than no strings attached s*x, a successful friends-with-benefits relationship might be just what you need. For example, college students often pursue FWB relationships because they are too busy with studies and too young for long-term relationships.

This is great, as long as you aren’t allowing fear of commitment to stop you from finding true love. As great as it is to have a friend you can count on for a bit of s*x here and there, true love is also pretty awesome. So, do what works for you, but be open to other possibilities as well. You deserve a fulfilling love life at every stage.
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Understand That Not Everyone Can Manage This

Can you really make an FWB relationship work? Not everyone can, and that’s okay. For many of us, our s*x lives are too deeply entangled with our emotions. It’s never just about scratching a s*xual itch. Even if we don’t fall deeply in love, developing feelings is just part of the experience.

If you know that you can’t have s*x and remain just friends, that’s okay. Being friends with benefits (FWB) isn’t for everybody. Even if it seems as if everyone else is enjoying friends-with-benefits relationships, there’s nothing wrong with you choosing something different.

Don’t Lie to Them or Yourself (Please!)

Never forget that the other person is your friend. They aren’t just an object for your s*xual pleasure. There was a real relationship in place before you decided to spend time with them for the purpose of having s*x. Your friend with benefits deserves honesty and respect. They aren’t just a random hookup.

So, don’t make promises you don’t intend to keep just to convince them to have s*x with you. Any physical intimacy you experience in the short term isn’t worth destroying any future relationship you have with your friend.

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Keep Some Friends Off Limits
Think about your circle of friends. You probably have stronger emotional ties with a smaller inner circle of people, while things are much more casual as you get further out. You just aren’t as emotionally attached to the folks in that wider friend circle.

To avoid heartache and drama, consider limiting any friends with benefits to that wider circle. There’s just too much potential for catching feelings or other complexities among your closest friends.

Before choosing a friend for all the s*x with no strings attached, ask yourself this question. Would I rely on this person for emotional support if something bad happened in my life? If the answer is yes, consider whether you really want to risk that close relationship by entering into a friends-with-benefits arrangement.

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Choose the Right Partner for a Casual Relationship

Your s*x life is nonexistent, and you want to spice things up with a friends-with-benefits arrangement. But, who do you choose?

You want to pick a s*xual partner with low-drama potential. They’ll need to be just as chill about this arrangement as you. The idea is that both of you get your s*xual needs met while still maintaining a fun friendship. So, that friend who tends to be high-drama and a bit confrontational might not be the best choice.

You should also skip that one friend who forms a strong emotional attachment with every person they date within the first two weeks. Stick with healthy friends who aren’t going to develop romantic thoughts just because you do the deed

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Always Practice Safe S*x

Your s*xual health is very important, and so is your friend’s. Protect yours and theirs by practicing safe s*x. No, it doesn’t matter how confident you are that everything will be fine. It isn’t worth the risk.

Treat this like you would any other s*xual relationship that is not monogamous. Get tested, and use a barrier method for birth control. A pregnancy or STI is going to bring worst kind of complication to this situation.

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Set Some Ground Rules

In order for an FWB relationship to work, you have to establish some clear ground friends with benefits rules. Here are some questions worth asking in this regard:

Will you go public with your friends-with-benefits relationship?
Are you ready seeing other people together?
How will you handle it if one or both of you feels a romantic connection with the other?
How often will you see each other?
Does this mutual understanding leave room for a romantic commitment if things work out?
Of course, this goes both ways. They may have their on guidelines and expectations.

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Make Sure You Are on the Same Page at All Times

Just because you and your s*x buddy were on the same page initially doesn’t mean things might change. One of you could find yourself catching feelings after a period of time. Or, you might begin to feel pangs of jealousy, even though you don’t have an exclusive relationship status.

This is why communication is so important. Don’t be surprised that the other person’s needs or expectations have changed. Take time to have an honest conversation about your situation on the regular. This ensures that both you and your FWB aren’t at risk of being hurt and disappointed.
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