Singles and Married world

Accept Your Mate:
Chapter at a Glance,

1.Acceptance
A. What acceptance involves
1. Viewing your mate as a person of worth
2. Liking your mate as he/she is
3. Respecting his/her right to be dissimilar from you
4. Allowing him/her to possess own feelings about matters
5. Accepting his/her attitudes, no matter how different
6. Acceptance does not mean-
1. You pretend your mate is perfect
2. No faults exist
C. Acceptance means-
1. Recognizing imperfections
2. Recognizing that areas need changing
3. Accepting the total person
11. Unacceptance
A. Common forms of unacceptance
1.criticism
2.belittling remarks
3.subtle suggestions
4.tiny hints
5.nonverbal attitudes
6.nagging
B. The results of nagging
1. Increases problems
2. Kills love
3. Arouses defenses
4. Doesn't work

111. Attempts to change
A. The reasons behind attempts to change another
B. How to point out mistakes-if you must
C. How to change your mate;
To be continued

Before Marriage Take Note Of These:
A. It's completely impossible to find someone who won't ever hurt you, so go for someone who will make the pain worthwhile.
B.love is something eternal the aspect may change, but not the essenes.
C. Perfect maturity is when a person hurts you, and you try to understand their situation and don't hurt them back.
D. A woman who doesn't ask fo anything deserves everything.

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You Really Need a True Friend to Make a Good Marriage! (Selflessness).

What is a friend?
Many things. ...A friend is someone you are comfortable with, someone whose company you prefer. A friend is someone you can count on-not only for support, but for honesty.
A friend is one who believes in you...someone with whom you can share your dreams. In fact, a real friend is a person you want to share all of life with-and the sharing doubles the fun.
When you are hurting and you can share your struggle with a friend, it eases the pain. A friend offers you safety and trust. ..Whatever you say will never be used against you.
A friend will laugh with you, but not at you....A friend will pray with you....and for you. My friend is one who hears my cry of pain, who senses my struggle, who shares my low as well as my highs.

In such a friendship, nothing is hidden. This friendship is built on trust, and the relationship takes time to grow and develop.
All singles and married needs this kind of friendship.

Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt;
And you never can tell just how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far.
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit;
It's when things seem worst that you mustn't quit.
All the single lady's in the house is your turn ooooo

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, when the road you're trudging seems all uphill, when the funds are low and the debts are high, and you want to smile but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.

Love is:

Love is when you take away the feelings, passion and romance in a relationship and finds out you still care for that person.

Love Maintenance

Think about your new relationship as if it's a new car. At first, it's exciting! You take it out all the time and experience a thrill. But what happens when after a while, that oil light comes on? You're past due for an oil change-and maybe a tune-up-but you have so many other pressing matters to attend to that you let it go.
You can still drive around town, but soon you're going to notice that something isn't right. Your car isn't running as smoothly as ot used to. Again, you hope that the problem will go away, so you ignore the flashing warning signal.
What happens then? Your car troubles don't magically disappear. They get worse. Pretty soon, you find yourself stranded on the side of the road, calling a mechanic. If only you had dealt with the problems back when they presented themselves.
Like an automobile, a relationship requires frequent ture-ups and inspections. It can also stand a little preventative maintenance to ensure that neither of you end up stuck on the side of the road somewhere alone, feeling helpless, insecure, and angry.
Every marriage needs preventative maintenance. Why is it that we find time to deal with our finances, our jobs, our friends-and our cars-but we don't put in the same amount of effort turning up our marriage? If your relationship somehow falls out of whack, don't wait for the warning lights to flash furiously. Begin some preventative maintenance as soon as the signals are there.
Let's face it-certain problems just don't go away. You have to tend to them, deal with them, and eventually solve them. Car metaphors notwithstanding, if you suddenly feel your relationship veering off the road, it's up to you to grab hold ofvthe wheel before it runs off course completely!

It takes only a minutes to have a crush on someone, an hour to love someone and a day to love someone but it takes a life time to forget someone.

Don't go for looks that can deceive, don't go for wealth which fades away but go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make the dark days bright. Hope you find someone who will make you smile.

It hots to love someone and not be loved in return, but most painful is when you love someone and you never find the courage to let the person know how you feel.

The Impact of temperaments in a Relationship (married or singles.)

Temperaments/Personality groups
You are well aware that your spouse or your boy friend doesn't react to situations, people, or life in general the way you do. The reason is simply that God made your wife different from you. In fact, that difference is undoubtedly part of what made your wife attractive to you in the first place. Now, however, these differences may be a real source of irritation. They may even be affecting your love for each other. But that doesn't have to be the case. Understanding temperament styles can help you bridge the conflicts and strengthen your marriage. As I pointed out in After Every Wedding Comes a Marriage, the study of Temperament differences goes way back:

Four hundred years before christ as born, Hippocrates first presented the concept of temperaments to the world. As a physician and philosopher, he dealt closely with people and saw that there extroverts and introverts, optimists and passimists. He further categorized people according to their body fluids as sanguine, blood; Choleric, yellow bile; Melancholy, black bile; and Phlegmatic, phlegm. While modern psychologists do not hold to the theory of the fluids, the terms and characteristics are still valid!

At this point, let me add that it is important to look at your weaknesses as well as your strengths.