Bitter Truths-Shey Hila

LETTER TO EVERY WOMAN:

Dear Woman,

Not every man is husband material. Some are friendzone material. Some are boyfriend material. Some are sëx mate material. Some are baby-papa material. Some are husband material. Some are father material.

Marry a man who is like a brother, husband, father and a best friend to you. Some of you get into marriage with men who have no business being married. Marriage is not for everybody. Some men are not wired to function in matrimony.

Don't allow marriage desperation or societal pressure to push you into the arms of a man who is not ready or suited for matrimony. Look around you; most men get married just for the status. Those are the men who marry wives to be taken care of by their mothers and fathers.

I have seen men who married wives and traveled out of the country for 5, 6, and even 7 years without coming home to see their wives. What is that?

You shouldn't be theoretically married. Marriage must be practical. Some men are very selfish. Take this from me, a selfish man can never be a good husband.

Matrimony thrives on mutualism. It is a give-and-take situation. Don't marry a man because you are pregnant for him. Don't marry him because he deflowered you. Don't marry him because you are unemployed. Don't marry him because you've dated him for a long time. Don't marry him because you invested in him financially.

Marry him because you believe he is worthy of being called your husband and the father of your unborn kids. There are men everywhere, but husbands are scarce.

I pray for you who are yet to be married: you will not experience marriage bo***ge. And for those who feel they've made a mistake, retrace your steps, and rededicate your marriage to God.

God is faithful and ready to help you, and He will assist you in Jesus' name!

Note: If you are a man reading this post, don't make it a gender war. For women who are not wife material, the article is coming up...

Someone Who betrays you again and again, will always be doing that 👌. There is no need to drink the whole sea to realize that it's salty.

Forgive them and wish them well but never get too close to them again. Some people deserve forgiveness and not second chance to continue the relationship.

One of the most painful reasons why responsible women don't like to divorce:

Some women are going through a lot in their marital homes nowadays, partly because of the children.

It's common to see women regretting their decision to divorce. Some people may think it's because they were still in love. But that's not always the case.

Most women regret it because they see and feel the unhappiness of their children, who are not enjoying what we call today a good family.

Some women are forced to remain in unhealthy relationships, even though the love has long faded. They stay because they want their kids to feel the presence of both parents.

So many marriages are still going on thanks to the children. This is one of the reasons why I always advise women who are not physically abused to stay in their marriages for the sake of their children.

Sometimes it's better to think twice about the well-being of the children and stay.

If you find yourself in this situation, consider that you don't have a husband. Carry out your responsibilities like a single woman, put more effort into becoming financially independent, forget about him, but just be yourself for the sake of the children so they can enjoy the presence of both parents.

It's also a life lesson for the children to grow up seeing this and understand why it's important to love their partners when they get married, especially for boys.

A good child will never wish the same mistakes of their parents to spoil their marriage too.

So many women have kept up their marriages because of their children, and this has also helped them to live a decent life and take care of them.
Sometimes you can divorce, but after divorce, if care is not taken, she may start living indecently.

If you are already a mature woman with children, it's better not to divorce for the sake of the kids, especially if your health is not being threatened by the marriage.

To the Single Mothers

You are struggling to put food on the table for yourself and the kids, You pay your bills, you pay their school fees, you pay your rent, and you are planning to build your house. You help your parents and other relatives.
May God open doors for you in the mighty name of Jesus. 🙏🙏.