SuperiorSade

As the parentified eldest daughter I learned how to properly clean dishes and properly clean and organize a kitchen but I never fully grasped how to organize my room and keep it organized. Every day I struggle with my room’s appearance. The carpet is clean and the clothes in my room are clean but it still looks messy asf. I feel like I could be doing better, especially since it’s been a full year since I moved out of my mom’s home. But I’m still struggling to get on top of this organization thing. I’ll always do my best, but right now I’m embracing the mess.

How I look when I remember that my extended family is toxic and why tf did they have to happen to me

Sometimes all a girl needs is some appetizers, a scary movie and a quiet hour and a half to eat them. 😋

You are not crazy or cruel for wanting distance from a narcissistic family – you are reclaiming your autonomy and your right to a peaceful life. When you grow up inside a systemic pattern of hypocrisy, gaslighting, and subtle but constant disrespect, you can end up feeling chronically misunderstood and blaming yourself for the chaos around you instead of recognizing the manipulative dynamics at play. Many of us were unknowingly trained to minimize emotional abuse and abandonment, to carry the family’s secrets, and to accept being cast as the “problem” so the system never had to change. Choosing to go low or no contact is not abandonment of “family values”; it is breaking a harmful pattern so you can grieve, heal, and build relationships rooted in safety, reciprocity, and genuine care. If you are standing on that edge right now, this carousel is your permission slip: you are allowed to choose distance, to rewrite the story they told about you, and to create a life where love does not hurt.